Making oneself worthy of a Relationship

What you sow is what you reap.
Holds very true for a relationship. You sow a crappy seed you will reap the benefit of that seed, no matter how you try to correct it later. Unlike in a field, you can't get rid of a seed you've sown. Down the relationship lane, you will get to sow a lot of seeds in the evergreen field of relationship. The relationship matures as well as a crop, and what the crop yields depends on the seeds you've sown.
I have a feeling that most people whose relationship is all strong and mature, do not necessarily have only great seeds that were sown. It probably would be that the average crop from the relationship field would be very good, despite a few bad seeds (call them weeds if you like).
And moreover every good relationship possibly would have the starting patches of the field with crappy if not poor growth, and as a farmer one learns from mistakes, but the thing about Relationship Farming (if I can call it so), one cannot afford similar mistakes and the same mistake is going to cost you the whole field!

Enough Farming eh!

How do I make myself worthy of a relationship?
One of the biggest problems that causes strain in a relationship possibly is sharing of household chores. Guys get to earn the 'culprit' tag in this case, reason being possibly how much of the household chores they got to do when growing up, and how much in 'comparison' to their sibling they had to do. As kids doing chores always resulted in comparing yourself to your sibling, you had to make sure you did nothing more than what your sibling did. We(I) as kids missed the big picture, there was someone(s) (Could be the dad & the mom or just the mom) who was doing the chores that got missed out during the fight between the siblings over who has to do the chore. Guess what, some never grow out of that chore comparing mindset, and the result, you want to share the chores the same way with your partner. The lesson missed here is as a kid, we ought to have learnt from our parent in thinking that this is "OUR HOME", and it is our duty just like it is your duty to have your bath/brush your teeth/eat your food. The moment the "OUR HOME" hits my head, I begin to realize that I need to take and look for opportunities to make my abode a better place. Aah with realization you enable your kid(s) to learn an important lesson of being part of a family. And you take one step forward in making yourself worthy of a relationship.

Anger in a relationship
Anger poisons the relationship. When I am angry, I am blinded, my rational thinking is blinded, But as a blind man, I don't grope around cautiously, instead I move around in an enraged manner, disturbing all that is around me, and the more enraged I am, the more damaging I am. And it hurts even more when both the parties are enraged causing heavier damage. Words really are funny, they convey stronger meaning and intent, when spoken in anger, than when spoken with love. Enraged words have a fare more powerful effect than words spoken with love, and when hurled at each other, it brings in a war where each of us try to show off our prowess at hurling spite. And an enraged mind brings in thoughts of actions you want to commit, but would not commit when you are sober and rational. Such thoughts themselves poison the crops we are cultivating especially very detrimental to the good crops that are growing and it makes the bad crops thrive even better and what more the bad crops would start taking the place of the good crops that were sown as well!!!!!.
But anger/disappointment is not very avoidable being two different people under a dome. I become worthy of a relationship, when I learn to not take meaning out of a word spoken out of rage, and when I learn to plug the flow of words from my mouth when I am raged. But how do I do that? Especially me, who is very short tempered? Maybe divert your thought and attention towards what I want to become in future, channelize the negative energy towards what hasn't been achieved? I'm still pondering on ways to getting myself back when I am enraged. You are not you, when you are enraged, so tackling rage, involves finding you within your enraged you.